There will always be distractions and people that bring you down in life. Does it ever feel like you have all the motivation in the world to take a task head on and achieve your goals only to find that once you start, you begin to doubt yourself. Or worse, voices of people telling you can’t, fill your head and discourage you.
Do you then convince yourself that the voices are right, and that you probably can’t do it, so there is no point in even trying and play the ‘victim’. This is something that I have done for a very long time but I am getting better at replacing the negative voices with positive, encouraging words. When I was younger, I was told over and over again, by certain people that I was stupid, that I was a loser and that I would be a failure in life. I don’t know about you, but if I hear the same thing over and over again enough times, I will begin to believe it. For most of my life, I grew up thinking that I was never good enough and that I wouldn’t accomplish anything.
It only makes sense that another area where I have struggled with my whole life, is confidence. Whether it be about my body image or my ability to do things I have a ‘behind the scenes’ attitude.
If I looked at my life up a few months ago, I would have agreed that I had very low confidence, no drive, no motivation and I was in a rut, lazier than ever. I didn’t have many friends to hang out because I moved to a new province and it seemed like all my other friends back home were busy living their lives. It was depressing. Even my long term relationship was in trouble and it seemed like I had an excuse for everything. Nothing was ever my fault and if it was, I would make promises that I couldn’t keep, just so that everything would be ‘okay’ again. I just didn’t want to deal with anything or take responsibility for it.
Looking back, I realize that the reason I am reluctant to change is because I am so used to how things used to be and I am living in the past and my stubbornness doesn’t exactly help. I used to convince myself that I can hold onto our relationship and that everything would work out. I was in for a rude awakening, while my other half was changing and growing to build a better future for us, I was just hiding in the background, hoping that I could get through life without making any drastic changes. Reality hit and I knew that I had to make a decision, to change for the better. I want to be able to grow and change alongside my significant other. A decision according to Anthony Robbins is when you cut off all other possibilities and make a commitment with every you’ve got and taking action.
I may still have a lot of issues and problems that I need to constantly work on and fix, but I think that hitting that threshold at least in my relationship was a real wake up call for me.
Never let anyone tell you or make you feel like you are not good enough. Only you have to believe and have faith in yourself. If you believe that you are willing and are able, nothing can stop you.
Stay focused and keep your eye on the prize.
Stay strong and beautiful!
Has anything like this ever happened to you?