Learning to Conquer Fear

The Ugly Truth

I am the first to say that I am not happy about where I am in my life. Not to say that I am not truly grateful for all the blessings in my life. I just find myself in a should’ve, could’ve,  would’ve mentality where I am living with too many regrets.

Regrets, I’ve had a Few

I regret not taking advantage of more opportunities. I regret not taking care of myself earlier on in life, I regret not watching my health, I regret letting myself lose confidence, I regret not going out and putting myself out there,  I regret not asking more (or any) questions, I regret not being more driven, I regret wasting so much time on petty little unnecessary dramatic events that don’t have any impact on my life, I regret not taking things more personally, I regret not thinking ahead, I regret not being financially smarter when I was younger, I regret not taking more initiative and so many more. I could sit here all day and tell you more things that I regret; the list goes on and on.  However, I pledge today, here and now that I will not live with regret any longer and instead charge ahead with confidence and a sense of purpose.

It is up to me to change my life or continue living with regret. I have analyzed my life a day realized that I do or don’t do things out of fear such as fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of embarrassing myself, fear of judgement from others, fear of criticism and fear of being behind in life.

Analyzing Life

I then proceeded to do a root cause analysis if you will on my life and compared what my life is to what it could be. Sure it could go either way, but I have faith that things will always work out, eventually. So now I am focusing all my time and energy doing things that will propel me to success whether it be with respect to my weight, my confidence or my daily life style. I have learned to keep only those in my life who challenge me and tell me the truth and not those who tell me what I want to hear.

“You are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave                       enough to let go those who keep weighing you down.”                                                                           – Ziad A.

Changing by Choice

In less than two months I am marrying the love of my life and I want to make him proud. He has made me a better person and although I’m too stubborn to see it at times, he teaches me how to be better. it is important to note that I am first and  foremost doing these things for me because I want to be proud of who I am and the life I live. Pleasing others is not my focus nor is it my goal.

I’ve realized that if I want something to happen, it starts with me and no one else. Everyone is too busy living their own life to worry or care about what you are doing with yours. So whatever dreams you have, go for it and don’t let anyone stand in your way!

Do you have any regrets? Who are you living your life for?

Stay strong and beautiful!


2 thoughts on “Learning to Conquer Fear

  1. By no means am I “Little Miss Perfect,” but I have no regrets. Sure, in some moments I regret things I’ve said or done, but the reason why I have no regrets most of the time is because I’ve come to realize that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Everything that happens is perfect with what the universe wants and what is meant to happen. Every time I have a regret, I just try to focus on everything that I’ve done well and everything that I’ve earned, which always trumps the regrets I have. It’s like when something bad happens to you, you always try to look at the “bright side.” When you have a regret, you should remember all of the good that you’ve done and everything that you’ve earned throughout life.

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